It's rare that you find someone with whom you feel safe. Not just loved, not just cared for, but safe. When you find those people, you let them know, and don't let any embarrassment stand in the way. I've got a couple of people like that (my angel husband, my friend Cliff, and a few close friends), but I don't know if I tell them enough, for fear of it sounding weird.
I just got off the phone with a friend who's going through a very rough patch. He wants to end his life, because he can't handle the emotions that are surfacing. He reached out to me, because he said that aside from his wife, he feels safe in my and my husband's arms. He qualified it with saying, "I don't mean to sound creepy or anything," before I cut him off with, "Of course it's not creepy; you're family to me."
I told him to get his butt over to our place, where he can feel that security and comfort. I don't want to see any harm come to him. He and his wife are very dear friends, and we love being together, because none of us has to be "on" for the other. Something about our connection with each other is like that feeling you get when you come home after a day at work, and can just relax and be. Hopefully, his coming over will be a reminder of those good feelings, and all the positive things about being alive.
If you're reading this, know that your life has meaning. Your life has worth. It's a precious gift, meant to be shared with the people you love. Find those people that make you feel safe, and let them know in clear, unambiguous terms. Tell them, "I love you, and feel safe with you. Thank you." It's all about making those connections with each other, and enriching each other's lives.
